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“That’s a job for a man” & other things you should never say to your daughter

"That's a job for a man" & other things you should never say to your daughter (more info at HerBayouCity.com)

I came across this post in Lifehack and thought to myself: “no one says that any more!” At least I hope that’s true. Please tell me we aren’t still telling girls that they have to be ladylike and that there are jobs they can’t do because they aren’t boys. Tell me we aren’t telling them, or encouraging them, to lower their expectations. Tell me that we aren’t discouraging them from being bold and assertive (because they aren’t acting like girls). Tell me that we’ve learned our lessons.

Then tell me we aren’t saying these things to our girls:

  • That’s a job for a man
  • You’re wasting your time
  • That’s not very ladylike of you

Let’s learn new language.

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Don’t start your sentences with “I’m sorry …”

Please stop apologizing! I’ve done it myself, frequently. You interrupt a conversation by saying “I’m sorry, but …” We respond to queries about delays by saying “I’m sorry …”

Are you at fault? If not, don’t apologize. It’s one of the things women do, seemingly by instinct, that actually hurts us in the long-term.

So many women I know apologize for existing, for entering a room, for speaking. “I’m sorry, is this a good time?” The apology is extraneous. “Is this a good time?” is thoughtful and that is all you need to be. When joining a conversation women will often apologize instead of saying, “excuse me.” Excuse me is polite and that is all you need. Try keeping track of how much you apologize (you won’t be sorry you did). Unless you hurt someone – don’t apologize.

Keep track of how many times you say the word “sorry” in one day. It’s eye-opening.

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Source: 15 Things Women Don’t Need To Do Though They’re Expected To | Lifehack

Image source: bykst / Pixabay

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You don’t have to be an expert to take on a new role

One of the first things I learned when preparing for media interviews is that women generally nod when talking with others, as a form of encouragement. The problem is that this looks like agreement. It’s something we do without thinking about it, and it weakens us during negotiations.

Inc. Magazine pulled together a list of suggested changes women can make in their daily behavior to empower themselves. (The nodding wasn’t on the list.) The one change that resonated with me was: We wait until we’re experts before taking on a new role. I’m guilty of this. I know that I’ve missed out on opportunities because I’ve held myself back, saying “I’m not ready.”

I’m not ready. But I’m doing it anyway.

What self-defeating behaviors do you need to tackle?

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Source: 12 Ways You Might Be Making Gender Bias Worse | Inc.com

Image source: geralt / Pixabay