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Covet confidence, not beauty

It’s no secret that women are told from the very first day of life (practically) that we should aspire to be pretty. And studies show that achieving the standard of beauty will result in higher wages, more success at work, and often becoming the envy of everyone else who doesn’t meet the standard.

No one has ever asserted that being pretty will make you happy.

You should work toward being confident in who you are, inside and out. It will reduce your stress. It will make you happier. And, believe it or not, it will make you more attractive to those around you.

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Additional reading: 11 Qualities That Women Should Crave Other Than Beauty

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Create Your Dream Closet

The SITS Girls have a post that gives a roadmap on what you (and I) need to do to create a “dream closet.” The best advice? “You should have nothing in your closet that is not currently wearable.” Get rid of anything that you can’t wear right now. Don’t keep it because you’re going to fit into it someday. Don’t keep it because of sentiment.

Read the article: Create Your Dream Closet With These 20 Easy Tips

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Organize your freezer by labeling your food

Here’s a quick and easy tip to organize your freezer and make sure you don’t let food expire: label it, including a “frozen” date, then organize by date with the oldest food in front. This way you’re always adding the new stuff to the back of the “pile” and always pulling ingredients from the front.

It’s a simple fix, but it works.

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How to retain what you read: write about it!

I sometimes read a book, then find myself striving to remember what was in it a few months (or weeks) later. Has this ever happened to you? Maybe it hasn’t (your memory might be better). For those of you who do have trouble remembering what you read, especially for non-fiction books, here’s a trick to help you retain more: write about it!

Before you run off with the thought that I’m giving you homework, think about it. Just by making notes about what you read you will clarify the key points, the important parts you want to remember. If you have a blog, you can write a post about it. Or you can even write a few paragraphs to post a review on Amazon.

Try it and let me know if it helped.

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“That’s a job for a man” & other things you should never say to your daughter

"That's a job for a man" & other things you should never say to your daughter (more info at HerBayouCity.com)

I came across this post in Lifehack and thought to myself: “no one says that any more!” At least I hope that’s true. Please tell me we aren’t still telling girls that they have to be ladylike and that there are jobs they can’t do because they aren’t boys. Tell me we aren’t telling them, or encouraging them, to lower their expectations. Tell me that we aren’t discouraging them from being bold and assertive (because they aren’t acting like girls). Tell me that we’ve learned our lessons.

Then tell me we aren’t saying these things to our girls:

  • That’s a job for a man
  • You’re wasting your time
  • That’s not very ladylike of you

Let’s learn new language.

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Writing tip: Write every day

Writing is like exercise — the more you do it, the better you get at it. (Don’t judge me by that sentence, please.) If you are a writer, you have to practice your craft every day. You will get better, even if you think you don’t need the improvement.

And, honestly, if you’re a writer you’re probably already writing every day. I know I do.

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Don’t start your sentences with “I’m sorry …”

Please stop apologizing! I’ve done it myself, frequently. You interrupt a conversation by saying “I’m sorry, but …” We respond to queries about delays by saying “I’m sorry …”

Are you at fault? If not, don’t apologize. It’s one of the things women do, seemingly by instinct, that actually hurts us in the long-term.

So many women I know apologize for existing, for entering a room, for speaking. “I’m sorry, is this a good time?” The apology is extraneous. “Is this a good time?” is thoughtful and that is all you need to be. When joining a conversation women will often apologize instead of saying, “excuse me.” Excuse me is polite and that is all you need. Try keeping track of how much you apologize (you won’t be sorry you did). Unless you hurt someone – don’t apologize.

Keep track of how many times you say the word “sorry” in one day. It’s eye-opening.

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Source: 15 Things Women Don’t Need To Do Though They’re Expected To | Lifehack

Image source: bykst / Pixabay

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Mistakes We Make When Grocery Shopping

Most of us shop for groceries every week (or so) and are making these common mistakes every time:

Buying groceries is one of those universal chores most of us could probably do better at, whether it’s saving money on food or spending less time shopping. Here are ten common mistakes we tend to make at the grocery store—and how to avoid them.

The ones I make regularly include buying too much or too little food and not knowing the price of foods I regularly buy. What are yours?

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Source: Top 10 Mistakes We Make When Grocery Shopping (And How to Fix Them)

Image source: PublicDomainImages / Pixabay

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Save time, don’t multitask

Multitasking is a myth. It doesn’t save time. Countless studies show this, but I’m still doing it. I need to stop. And so do you.

You might think that you are getting more done and saving time by multitasking, but studies show we’re not the brilliant multitaskers we think we are. Research conducted at Stanford University, for example, found that people who multitask are less productive and waste more time when switching between tasks than if they had stuck with one task until they finish. Moreover, multitasking damages the brain. The human brain is simply not capable of focusing on multiple tasks at once.

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Source: 10 Reasons Why Some People Feel Like They Don’t Have Enough Time

Image source: geralt / Pixabay

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You don’t have to be an expert to take on a new role

One of the first things I learned when preparing for media interviews is that women generally nod when talking with others, as a form of encouragement. The problem is that this looks like agreement. It’s something we do without thinking about it, and it weakens us during negotiations.

Inc. Magazine pulled together a list of suggested changes women can make in their daily behavior to empower themselves. (The nodding wasn’t on the list.) The one change that resonated with me was: We wait until we’re experts before taking on a new role. I’m guilty of this. I know that I’ve missed out on opportunities because I’ve held myself back, saying “I’m not ready.”

I’m not ready. But I’m doing it anyway.

What self-defeating behaviors do you need to tackle?

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Source: 12 Ways You Might Be Making Gender Bias Worse | Inc.com

Image source: geralt / Pixabay